Chris and the dog

(non) facebook friday

Chris and the dog

Photo c/o AJ after she insisted on a turn with the camera. Not bad, little one.

For Lent this year, I decided to take a break from my normal sacrifice of sweets or pizza (these are a few of my favorite things) and really take the plunge. I gave up Facebook. That’s right – I spent more than 40 days and 40 nights off The Book.

Chris didn’t think I could do it. I wasn’t sure I could either. But I did know I was on it way too much despite the fact that it generally did not make me feel good on the inside. I started to feel like it was cluttering my mind and my life with junk. But in typical millennial FOMO fashion, I was worried that if I gave it up, I would miss out.

I figured Lent would be the perfect trial period for a break. I decided not to delete my account entirely, and I didn’t even delete the app on my phone. I simply moved it to one of the secondary screens, so I wouldn’t see it on my main home screen.

Giving up Facebook was surprisingly easy. Maybe because I knew it wasn’t permanent. I can almost say I did not miss it at all but there were a few bloggers (such as Story of this Life and Momastery) that I followed mainly from their Facebook content and I did miss reading their posts.

I can tell you what I definitely did not miss – the junk. The shares of bad memes and quote graphics. The “share this if you …”-type posts. (Disclaimer: Totally guilty of sharing this type of stuff myself every now and then.) My lack of information overload led to a clearer mind. And, maybe more importantly, I did not feel like I was missing out.

Yes, I may have missed a photo of one of my friend’s babies. Yes, I might have missed a call to action or a news story. But the truth is – I didn’t actually miss those things. I know what is going on because I listen to and read the news. I don’t need to see every picture my friends post because I get to see them in person. And when I don’t, we share pictures via text or email.

Don’t worry Mr. Zuckerberg, I have no plans to give up Facebook permanently, but I learned a couple valuable lessons from my experience. 1) There just might be something to that whole “decluttering” rage happening right now. If you’re obsessing over a social media platform and yet it leaves you feeling empty or bad inside, it’s time to declutter. Take a break, and when you come back, stop following the things or people you didn’t miss. 2) I love social media and I love connecting (I just started a blog for pete’s sake), but I don’t need to be on it all the time. I first learned this when we started doing social-media-free weekends when AJ was younger. Although I don’t follow that strictly anymore, I still rarely get on during the weekends. It gives me the offline time I need to recharge and make sure I’m not missing those precious moments.

Has anyone else taken a break from a certain social media platform or thought about it? If so, I’d love to hear about your experience!


4 thoughts on “(non) facebook friday

  1. Mary Ann says:

    I read this post earlier today and I have thought about it throughout the day. I don’t spend much time during the day on Facebook but I tend to check it early morning and at night. But even only checking it then, this quote is exactly the truth for me…
    “I started to feel like it was cluttering my mind and my life with junk. ”
    I sometimes feel so distracted from real life and the important things by getting sucked in to Facebook. Think it’s time for me to take a break! Thanks!


    • Kelly says:

      Taking a break also did help me remember why I am on FB..I enjoy keeping in touch with my friends and family. I feel like I’m a little better at weeding out that other clutter now!


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